Does Feeling B*tchy Make You A B*tch? – Donnielle Carter

A client felt a flash of “why does SHE already have clients and I don’t?” Then she called herself a b*tch for it. She wasn’t being one. She was being human — and there’s a real difference.
Noticing a feeling is awareness. Deciding that feeling makes you a bad person is judgment. Most of us can’t tell the two apart — so the second something uncomfortable shows up, envy, irritation, a flash of “why them and not me,” we skip straight to deciding what it says about our character.
5 Key Takeaways
Having an uncomfortable feeling does not make you a bad person. Feelings, opinions, and reactions are valid information; they do not automatically define your character. 
Awareness and judgment are not the same thing. Awareness notices the feeling, while judgment turns that feeling into a verdict about who you are. 
Judging the feeling can prevent you from understanding it. When you immediately punish yourself for an emotion, you can miss what that reaction is actually revealing about your wants, fears, or beliefs about yourself. 
Separate what you felt from what you actually did. Feeling jealousy, comparison, anger, or frustration is different from acting on it, and treating those as the same can create unnecessary shame. 
Get curious about your emotions instead of defining yourself by them. Ask what the feeling is pointing toward, receive the information, and allow the emotion to move through rather than storing it or turning it into a character judgment.