The Four Agreements: Don't Make Assumptions, Part 1 - Sharyn Nichols

In this episode of Feel to Heal, Sharyn begins the Third Agreement from Don Miguel Ruiz’s The Four Agreements: Don’t Make Assumptions.

This episode explores why the mind creates stories when there is missing information, especially in moments of silence, uncertainty, or emotional vulnerability. Whether it is an unanswered text, a change in someone’s tone, or a look we interpret as rejection, assumptions can quickly turn uncertainty into suffering.

Listeners are invited to notice the difference between what actually happened and the story they built on top of it. This episode offers a compassionate look at why we assume, how assumptions connect to old wounds, and how healing begins when we learn to pause before believing every story our mind creates.
5 Key Takeaways
Assumptions turn missing information into stories. We often react as though those stories are facts, even when the original situation may be simple.The mind assumes because it wants certainty and safety. It fills gaps using past fears, old wounds, and expectations.Pause between the trigger and the story. Ask what you actually know, what you are guessing, and what else could be true.Assumptions can become self-fulfilling prophecies. A defensive reaction to an unverified belief can create the very conflict you feared.Separate facts from assumptions. You do not need to punish yourself with worst-case guesses or treat fear as fact.